Just get over it. That happened 30 years ago. You’re an adult now. Don’t think about it. You should be over that now. Grow up. You’re not as good as everyone else. No one has ever loved you and no one ever will. Just act normal. Why can’t you act normal. Why do you think everybody is against you? Why don’t you socialize with people? How come you don’t trust me? Why do you think everyone is against you? Why can’t I just act like everyone else? If people knew the real me…they wouldn’t like me. Just keep pretending. Don’t cry…you’re an adult…act like one. Keep smiling and no one will ever suspect anything is wrong. Wrong!
If you’ve ever had a recording of any of these thoughts looping endlessly in your brain, then you probably are a victim of childhood abuse and if you’ve never been abused you have no clue what it’s like to experience the depression, anxiety, low self esteem and any other number of issues that go along with it but there is hope.
Abuse, whether physical, verbal or emotional can leave psychological wounds that are harder to heal than bodily injuries. Survivors of abuse may find it hard to cope with the intense, negative feelings that can haunt them long after the abuse has ended. Their ability to find peace and happiness in life may be ultimately affected and to a greater degree than they often hate to admit.
Hurtful, haunting memories that can still cut through your heart like a piercing knife, anxiety attacks, blocks to intimacy and trust issues are common in people who have experienced abuse, although many are able to overcome or minimize challenges like these with the help of a qualified mental health professional, a Christian counselor or fully relying on God.
All types of abuse can cause pain and psychological distress. It is not uncommon for a victim of abuse to experience more than one type of abuse. For example, someone who was sexually abused may have also experienced concurrent emotional abuse. Abuse can occur within any relationship, whether familial, professional, or social and it can also occur between strangers.
As adults, survivors of abuse may experience difficulty maintaining healthy relationships and productivity at work. They are at a more heightened risk for developing mental health issues like depression and are more likely to encounter one or more of the following psychological issues:
- Mood Issues
- Posttraumatic Stress (PTSD)
- Self Destructive Behavior
- Trust Issues
If your a victim of abuse, you may also experience feelings of jealousy toward those who have never experienced abuse. You long for those feelings of trust, intimacy and feeling normal.
How do you deal with these feelings? You meditate on what Jesus says about you instead of the feelings and you do it by faith. Here are a few scriptures to get you started toward wholeness and healing:
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 KJV
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. I John 4:18 KJV
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. I Peter 5:7 KJV
There is hope in Jesus! When the negative thoughts of abuse flood your soul and mind, remind yourself how Jesus feels about you and what He did for you on Calvary.
As a victim myself, I often remind myself of this verse:
When my father and mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. Psalms 27:10 KJV
The journey to healing may take a while but it is possible, because nothing—no thing impossible with God. Give Him your hurting heart and let Him heal you.
He cares for you,